Avoidance - the pros & cons

We all have different ways of coping with difficult or challenging situations. Lots of things influence what coping strategy we choose to use; how tired we are, other demands, past experience etc.

But why is avoidance a common coping strategy and what are the pros and cons?

Lets look at what we get out of avoiding, the Pros

Avoiding a difficult or challenging situation can;

- Reduce or eliminates negative emotions

- Reduce the risk of an uncertain outcome

- Minimise the chance of conflict

- Avoid getting it wrong

- Hide from judgement

Looking at this list it is easy to see why avoidance is such a popular coping strategy.

So with so many benefits, how could there be any cons I hear you say!

Here’s the flip side of avoiding, the cons

Well, avoiding a difficult or challenging situation can stop you;

- Over time feeling incapable of managing your emotional responses

- Challenging the assumption that the outcome would be negative

- Recognising your ability to handle conflict through effective communication skills learnt from experience

- Learning from experience and most importantly mistakes

- Stepping outside your comfort zone and increasing your confidence

- Building self-belief and self-esteem

- Challenging negative beliefs you hold about yourself and others

- Making new connections

- Experiencing new experiences

I could go on, but I think you probably get the message.

Avoidance can cause a lot more problems than is solves and you can see how repeated us of this coping strategy, could have long term implications on a persons view of themselves and their abilities.

So if not avoidance what else????

Here’s a couple of suggestions to get you going.

1/ Set small challenges and gradually increase confidence whilst reversing negative beliefs

2/ Look at actions you can take to increase ability and therefore your confidence. You are never to old to be learning, it’s not just for kids.

3/ Identify positive affirmations that you can tell yourself to challenge negative beliefs. I’m not talking over cheesy, just not the usual character assassination of yourself!

4/ Identify someone you trust to communicate your goals/plans to. You will be more likely to stick to them if you have someone you feel accountable to.

5/ Create a reward system. This will help your brain connect challenge with a positive outcome and increase motivation to complete challenges. Scientifically proven!!!

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